A bit antisocial, I used to hate school, sports and many other normal things. One thing that I was never tired of, though, was constantly comparing myself with my peers. When someone around me got new footwear, I would buy a new pair too, often more expensive than theirs. I always went out of my way to beat those around me in terms of clothing or eating and drinking. That way I felt more respected.

During one Chinese New Year holiday, my father took me to visit one of my childhood buddies. I had not seen Alex for years. We had been best friends and playmates when we were together residing at the same neighbourhood. Before I met Alex, I got very excited. I expected that my friend would be wearing famous brands and designer clothes. Their well-off family lived in Guangzhou, where Alex himself was attending an elite school.

When I saw him, however, my expectations were smashed. My friend dressed very plain. There was no trace of posh clothing on Alex at all. His shoes were even cheaper than mine. At the get-together, when I was chatting with Alex, it dawned on me that what matters to a person is his content rather than his exterior.

After the meeting with Alex, I changed. Today I no longer crave for luxuries or famous brands. Nor do I compare myself constantly with others any more. Instead, I feel fuller inside than before.